The not so good old days🛖
So yesterday I had my best friend from my secondary school days ring me up that he was going to be around for a couple hours. I sent him my location and he showed up a couple hours later and we were reunited once again. Looked like he had had a midlife growth spurt as he towered over me like a pro wrestler. He had gone 90% bald but really not changed much. He showed up with a female friend who was meeting us for the first time and took her sweet time to warm up to the many new faces. We chatted about how we regularly got into fights and get our asses handed to us in a matter of seconds
Fam time🎉
I called a couple of my sisters to let them know he was around and Rim showed up about thirty minutes later. She had other engagements so could not stay long enough but as always, she knew how to make an entrance. She wore a red dress and kept playing with her key fob. You would need to try very hard not to see the luxury brand on that key fob.
Rian and her husband showed up earlier than usual, we got the music going, a bottle of JD was cracked open, and boom! It was a party. We returned to our favourite conversation in this setting which is…. You guessed right, ‘relationships’.
Rian had told her husband a couple of weeks ago that she wanted out of the relationship, so he packed up and left. When I asked her what she wanted out of all of that, her response was “peace of mind.” If you know any recruiter from the United Nations peacekeeping unit, please drop their details in the comments section. I’d love to sign her up. Needless to say, they are back together and have made several concessions to accommodate their differences.
The purest form of feminism💅🏿
My friend’s female companion works for an investment bank and was of the opinion that African men are threatened by successful women. An example of the success in this context would be educational, preferably a post graduate certification, an illustrious career, probably working for a large corporation and holding a senior leadership and management position. My question to her was “are the men in your family threatened by your achievements?”, her response was NO. I let her know that all the men in my family were not threatened by her achievements either. At this point we had narrowed it down to men who were potential romantic partners. This group is not big enough to make a generalisation with.
She asked me directly what I think about successful women, I told her the same way I think about successful men, I just don’t care. I will learn a couple of things from their heavily scripted success stories and that’s about it.
SMV 🍌
I remember listening to Keven Samules who said Educational qualifications do not increase a woman’s SMV(Sexual MarketPlace Value). No man looks at a woman and goes damn… look at that woman with a PhD. He is of the opinion that men look for someone who they can grow together, accommodate each other and submit to their purpose.
I personally think that African men are the most feminist group of men, contrary to everything what is depicted in the movies for the purpose of entertainment. Patriarchy and toxic masculinity are western constructs we are trying so hard to tear down in our communities, without taking the time to look if they actually exist and if we actually tolerate it in our institutions and families.
She went further to let me know that if a team leader is not picked based on gender at work, that should be the same case in a household. I reminded her that the dynamics for putting together an effective team vasely differ from those required to set up a successful household
Mboni Tales 